This month, April, is Cesarean Awareness Month, and having had a cesarean with my second child, I have first-hand experience of the feelings of a mother who has given birth this way. I cannot remember the number of times I was told that I had it easy and that I hadn’t really given birth! My child was born safely and that’s all that should matter.
People don’t know your situation, circumstances or reason for your choice, and why should they. A Cesarean is not the simple or easy route and can lead to complications. They do not always promote the optimum bonding with a newborn and can cause problems breastfeeding. Many people feel that childbirth has become too medicalized, however that is not to say that if a medical reason exists to have a cesarean, then it should be ignored. I, for example, needed a cesarean with my second child due to a medical condition I have and this was determined to be the safest route for us both. Does that mean I wanted it? No. As a mother you do what you feel is right for your baby, rightly so, but please be mindful that not everyone will agree or understand.
If you take one thing away from the blog this week it should be this: How your baby is born does not and should not matter. In years to come it will not matter how you birthed your child, only that they are healthy. A Cesarean is nothing to be ashamed of and however your baby entered the world, the mother is a strong, brave and courageous woman for different reasons and please hold onto that thought.
At Hardwick Birth Services we provide an Amended Doula Package for elective cesarean deliveries to provide reassurance and empowerment to women and their families during this time. Contact us to find out how we can help you.